Questions & Comments
Rather than post about another recent escapade, the CS thought he would address a question, and comment on some developments.
A reader recently wrote:
I have been reading your posts and they are great...
I have been very careful in my selections but I want to know how you do soo much and still stay free of getting caught? How long have you been doing this? How often do you do it? Just wondering.. Thank you.
Thanks for reading and the comment.
I have mentioned what I do and the rules I follow, and my belief is that they eliminate the unnecessary risk and traps we can create by engaging in this behavior. I can't exactly say "how often" because I don't have a game plan to meet or cheat at specific times. I have been doing what I do for several years and have not had any issues, but that doesn't mean that I wont in the future. Certain things happen on occasion, and when they do, I take advantage of them. Sometimes I don't and just let them lie. And sometimes things don't work out at all. I am not saying there is a scientific formula for cheating. But I see people getting "caught" for reasons they could and should have avoided.
Having said that, cheating is a risky proposition either way. No matter how strictly I follow my rules or anyone else's, I cant eliminate the risk. You might run into to someone you wouldn't expect while getting sloppy over a few drinks with someone else. Or, someone may spot you in an unflattering situation and it may get back to the SFO. Too many intangibles. And although you can and must take necessary steps and precautions, being paranoid is not helpful either. If the worry and fear is so overwhelming, then its hardly worth doing it. Not everyone should cheat, even if they desire to do so. I think for some people it will just be a source of confusion and frustration if they do.
Personally, I realize that I am only in control as much as I can be in any given situation. There is always another person involved and other circumstances which are beyond my control. The risk cant be eliminated...plain and simple, and I think it is key to realize this from the very beginning. I try to be as discreet and as smart as I can. But if someone's worry and fear is so overwhelming, I would advise against it. If one decides to cheat, they should derive either pleasure, or something else that they seek. If, however, all they manage to do is create worry and paranoia, then they have just added another serious problem to their lives.
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Developments
Pre-occupation with several matters have made posts few and far between as of late. The CS is working to get back into proper "blog" form once again. Also, interestingly enough, I had my first enounter with someone referring this blog back to me. Now, without going into any details, it is still safe mentioning that fact here, or else I wouldn't do so. But ah...the "web" we weave.
As for recent activities, one encounter was very hot, and another did not work out at all.
I met "Sara" at starbucks (no, not "Daphene's" coffee shop)while she was reading and sipping on a frap. And while you all know that the CS is a big proponent of hip-hugging jeans, the "juicy suit" ensemble may just take the cake. Casual and quite appropriate for getting attention at your local coffee bean, Sara is blonde, tan, and a petite 5'3 or 5'4. The form fitting sweats accentuate her tight legs and flat stomach, and there is nothing better than discreetly figuring out the stenciling on a women's butt as she walks by in that outfit.
A conversation was to be had about her choice of books, and things progressed from there. We met up last week....more on her in the next post.
As for the other encounter? All was well until the cards were put on the table. Lets just say she wasn't impressed by the marriage factor. Fair enough.
