Ban Hip Huggers?
Are Louisianians out of their mind?
Instead, I propose government subsidies for all those who meet the requisite standards to wear em.
hip hugger ban
Saturday, April 24, 2004
Thursday, April 22, 2004
The Cheating Ways Part II
More to consider from the cheating perspective.
4. Dont Compare
We've all heard the ole saying: "...you take the hottest, most beautiful girl in the world...and somewhere there's a guy thats tired of fucking her." On average, the CS believes that such is the general nature of men and women. Though the cheating way presents the opportunity to compare your sex life with your spouse to that of the person you are cheating with. I think, a big mistake...and one thats easily made.
No doubt, its important to be sexually compatible. If there are serious problems in that realm, I highly doubt the relationship will survive to begin with. But if you cheat and fall into the trap of sexually comparing your spouse to that of another...you will repeat that mistake over and over, and will wind up chasing a high like a crack whore looking for quick fix. One that you likely never satisfy no matter who your spouse is.
Most cheating experiences are not based on reality. Here are at least a few of the reasons why someone your cheating with can seem so appealing:
- You dont completely know them (ah...mystery);
- You may only know and see certain traits and aspects of their personality (He's not grumpy like the one I have at home);
- They're usually presenting their "good" side (hey...he doesnt fart in front of me like I am used to);
- You havent had the opportunity to build resentment and problems between yourselves. (he's said I "look hot" more times in an hour then hubby has in the last five years).
Lets face it...the reality of marriage can make your spouse seem much less appealing. So much so that you may have a skewed perception of your spouses abilities, both sexual or otherwise. But if you say to yourself: "damn, this chick gives better head than I ever get at home" or "this guy fucks me so much harder and better than my husband" ...is that really the case? Sure... any given fuck or partner can be better than another. But its easy to confuse being with someone new, and the excitement of the new touch and feel that it brings, with thinking that they are somehow better sexually than your spouse. This in turn may gnaw away at you and make you think that you need to replace your spouse. You easily forget, of course, that the rush of someone new to begin with is what usually makes the entire experience hot.
The bottom line... well...dont compare the nookie! You are comparing apple and oranges if you do.
Dont make the mistake of believing you are getting something exceptional that your not otherwise getting at home. Accept the cheating way for what it is...hot sex usually due to variety and chemistry. The CS believes that "variety" is the key and the reason otherwise satisfied people cheat. Coupled with excitement and the adventure, that is what makes the experience hot, not necessarily the other person. Leave it at that, dont compare, and you will also leave many headaches behind.
5. Deceit
So this one is a rather obvious by product...but do you have the stomach for it?
Many say that the act of cheating itself is bad enough. But if you consider delving into the depths of someone other than your spouse, there will be much more deception to come. The preparation and lies needed to pull off the perfect "cheat" are many. Its easy to underestimate how much deception can actually be necessary.
Now... I am not talking about getting into a druken stupor and accidently bangin some triple chinned toothless wonder who looked good because of your beer goggles. No... I am actually talking about one who has made the decision that they will inevitably cheat and therefore want to do it in the most pragmatic way. The key, I think, is to understand that the lies will be many but that you need to avoid lying as much as possible. Once the lies start, it becomes easy to lie about everything, even relatively insignificant things which you shouldnt lie about. Often, this becomes the cheaters downfall.
As for the morality of such deceit...well...I dont have any magic bullets justifying it in one's marriage and relationship. But since the rules are set in such opposition with respect to our sexual desires and with what is expected of us in marriage, is it surprising that such deceit is prevalent and likely inevitable in this day and age? And if your relationship actually thrives because you occasionally take care of your "need," does such deceit justify itself?
Is it any different than the lies couples tell each other on a daily basis about other important topics in order to maintain stability and happiness in their relationship?
More to consider from the cheating perspective.
4. Dont Compare
We've all heard the ole saying: "...you take the hottest, most beautiful girl in the world...and somewhere there's a guy thats tired of fucking her." On average, the CS believes that such is the general nature of men and women. Though the cheating way presents the opportunity to compare your sex life with your spouse to that of the person you are cheating with. I think, a big mistake...and one thats easily made.
No doubt, its important to be sexually compatible. If there are serious problems in that realm, I highly doubt the relationship will survive to begin with. But if you cheat and fall into the trap of sexually comparing your spouse to that of another...you will repeat that mistake over and over, and will wind up chasing a high like a crack whore looking for quick fix. One that you likely never satisfy no matter who your spouse is.
Most cheating experiences are not based on reality. Here are at least a few of the reasons why someone your cheating with can seem so appealing:
- You dont completely know them (ah...mystery);
- You may only know and see certain traits and aspects of their personality (He's not grumpy like the one I have at home);
- They're usually presenting their "good" side (hey...he doesnt fart in front of me like I am used to);
- You havent had the opportunity to build resentment and problems between yourselves. (he's said I "look hot" more times in an hour then hubby has in the last five years).
Lets face it...the reality of marriage can make your spouse seem much less appealing. So much so that you may have a skewed perception of your spouses abilities, both sexual or otherwise. But if you say to yourself: "damn, this chick gives better head than I ever get at home" or "this guy fucks me so much harder and better than my husband" ...is that really the case? Sure... any given fuck or partner can be better than another. But its easy to confuse being with someone new, and the excitement of the new touch and feel that it brings, with thinking that they are somehow better sexually than your spouse. This in turn may gnaw away at you and make you think that you need to replace your spouse. You easily forget, of course, that the rush of someone new to begin with is what usually makes the entire experience hot.
The bottom line... well...dont compare the nookie! You are comparing apple and oranges if you do.
Dont make the mistake of believing you are getting something exceptional that your not otherwise getting at home. Accept the cheating way for what it is...hot sex usually due to variety and chemistry. The CS believes that "variety" is the key and the reason otherwise satisfied people cheat. Coupled with excitement and the adventure, that is what makes the experience hot, not necessarily the other person. Leave it at that, dont compare, and you will also leave many headaches behind.
5. Deceit
So this one is a rather obvious by product...but do you have the stomach for it?
Many say that the act of cheating itself is bad enough. But if you consider delving into the depths of someone other than your spouse, there will be much more deception to come. The preparation and lies needed to pull off the perfect "cheat" are many. Its easy to underestimate how much deception can actually be necessary.
Now... I am not talking about getting into a druken stupor and accidently bangin some triple chinned toothless wonder who looked good because of your beer goggles. No... I am actually talking about one who has made the decision that they will inevitably cheat and therefore want to do it in the most pragmatic way. The key, I think, is to understand that the lies will be many but that you need to avoid lying as much as possible. Once the lies start, it becomes easy to lie about everything, even relatively insignificant things which you shouldnt lie about. Often, this becomes the cheaters downfall.
As for the morality of such deceit...well...I dont have any magic bullets justifying it in one's marriage and relationship. But since the rules are set in such opposition with respect to our sexual desires and with what is expected of us in marriage, is it surprising that such deceit is prevalent and likely inevitable in this day and age? And if your relationship actually thrives because you occasionally take care of your "need," does such deceit justify itself?
Is it any different than the lies couples tell each other on a daily basis about other important topics in order to maintain stability and happiness in their relationship?
Tuesday, April 20, 2004
Rachel's Offer
Being preoccupied with too many activities, the CS was unable to address issues with Rachel until recently.
Having been frequently in and out of the office, I still managed to notice that Rachel was pouting over the Mona situation. For all of the opportunities at work, its not without its obvious downsides. The "rules" have to be modified in a way since you have to work with someone on almost a daily basis. As soon as something turns sour, there is nothing worse than having to see or work with that person over and over.
Rachel has a boyfriend of her own and is well aware of my status. So the right to be jealous is limited to a certain degree. Then again, jealousy is such the human emotion that intentionally flaunting sexual intimacy with another is highly "uncool." Paradoxically, such flaunting seems to bring even more sexual opportunities from the same people who are upset at you. Although discretion is my choice, the alternative might be acceptable to many others.
In any event, I wanted to make sure that Rachel knew that Mona's appearance was not orchestrated. So I decided to take her out for an extended lunch. There is no purpose to lie to her about Mona and I had no intention of doing so. Rachel knows me to well by now and would see right through that anyway. So she asked questions, I was completely honest, and as soon as she understood that it was an unintentional fiasco, things changed. The hot part of it was that after she relaxed, she began to ask me questions about Mona... how she was, what she did, where we did it and how? The more we discussed, the hotter we both got and the more she wanted to know. She wanted details, like how she tasted, how she felt, how she sounded, and how it all made me feel. Since these questions always interest me, It was something to see her interested and getting turned on as well.
We were in a "safe" albeit public restaurant and very cozy with each other as the details with Mona became much more graphic and intense. As we talked, I could see us getting sloppy right there if we didn't stop. There was a lot of quasi-discreet playing under the table: touching, caressing and the exploration of our bodies. But we decided to stop there. Kissing ensued in the car, but we both had a busy day ahead and knew it couldn't go further that day.
So things with Rachel were resolved in a way. But as we were driving, she threw me for a little loop. She told me that her boyfriend was out of town in a few weeks and that she wanted us to go "away" for a weekend. "No work or other reality shit to think about" as she put it.
I wasnt expecting to hear that or prepared to deal with it, so I played it off until later. But she has reminded me since and it's fine time to either shit or get off the pot.
The desire to spend time with Rachel is there. She is young, smoking hot and it would surely be a great weekend. But even though the lines are that much more blurred when you have to work with someone, spending that kind of time together may be questionable.
The CS is leaning hard in one direction on this one... but is still pondering.
Being preoccupied with too many activities, the CS was unable to address issues with Rachel until recently.
Having been frequently in and out of the office, I still managed to notice that Rachel was pouting over the Mona situation. For all of the opportunities at work, its not without its obvious downsides. The "rules" have to be modified in a way since you have to work with someone on almost a daily basis. As soon as something turns sour, there is nothing worse than having to see or work with that person over and over.
Rachel has a boyfriend of her own and is well aware of my status. So the right to be jealous is limited to a certain degree. Then again, jealousy is such the human emotion that intentionally flaunting sexual intimacy with another is highly "uncool." Paradoxically, such flaunting seems to bring even more sexual opportunities from the same people who are upset at you. Although discretion is my choice, the alternative might be acceptable to many others.
In any event, I wanted to make sure that Rachel knew that Mona's appearance was not orchestrated. So I decided to take her out for an extended lunch. There is no purpose to lie to her about Mona and I had no intention of doing so. Rachel knows me to well by now and would see right through that anyway. So she asked questions, I was completely honest, and as soon as she understood that it was an unintentional fiasco, things changed. The hot part of it was that after she relaxed, she began to ask me questions about Mona... how she was, what she did, where we did it and how? The more we discussed, the hotter we both got and the more she wanted to know. She wanted details, like how she tasted, how she felt, how she sounded, and how it all made me feel. Since these questions always interest me, It was something to see her interested and getting turned on as well.
We were in a "safe" albeit public restaurant and very cozy with each other as the details with Mona became much more graphic and intense. As we talked, I could see us getting sloppy right there if we didn't stop. There was a lot of quasi-discreet playing under the table: touching, caressing and the exploration of our bodies. But we decided to stop there. Kissing ensued in the car, but we both had a busy day ahead and knew it couldn't go further that day.
So things with Rachel were resolved in a way. But as we were driving, she threw me for a little loop. She told me that her boyfriend was out of town in a few weeks and that she wanted us to go "away" for a weekend. "No work or other reality shit to think about" as she put it.
I wasnt expecting to hear that or prepared to deal with it, so I played it off until later. But she has reminded me since and it's fine time to either shit or get off the pot.
The desire to spend time with Rachel is there. She is young, smoking hot and it would surely be a great weekend. But even though the lines are that much more blurred when you have to work with someone, spending that kind of time together may be questionable.
The CS is leaning hard in one direction on this one... but is still pondering.
Monday, April 19, 2004
"Toothing" latest sex craze
So...."toothing" the latest way to find someone to bed in an instant. Think someone next to you is hot? "Tooth" them and wait for a reply...
So the CS asks... whatever happend to flirting? On the other hand, wont this help people do that which they would otherwise not have the balls to do?
"Toothing" sex craze
So...."toothing" the latest way to find someone to bed in an instant. Think someone next to you is hot? "Tooth" them and wait for a reply...
So the CS asks... whatever happend to flirting? On the other hand, wont this help people do that which they would otherwise not have the balls to do?
"Toothing" sex craze
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