The Grass is Greener?

So is it human nature, conditioning, or a combination of both that makes us constantly grapple with this one. Perhaps, this thinking permeates all aspects of our lives...but where better to begin than with relationships.

The CS has friends, some who are married, and others who are not (more on all of them hopefully later). It seems everyone is relatively "unhappy" with their current state of affairs. Question is why?

The married ones bitch and moan about being single---the freedom, the independence, and the lack of responsibility. The single ones complain about not having someone or being tired of the "scene." Each one compares their own world to the next guy and always seems to want that. Now, is this because we can get everything so easy and fast these days? That is, we dont like something or get bored and therefore get rid of it? Relationships are hard enough without that kind of thinking, but do we now apply that standard to them?

From the male perspective it seems guys struggle with what we call "Surrendering" to the relationship. They're in a relationship or marriage, yet they still fight off the SFO like a heavyweight champ. Whether its bedding other women, taking trips without the SFO, or "guys night out," they bob and weave and counterpunch and claim that they will never be broken.

Guys seem susceptible to this type of thinking, especially when it comes to other woman. So is this predominately a male trait ...or do the women just play it off better? And if human nature is what it is...isnt it unlikely that we will remain in a "commited" and "faithfull" relationship?

The CS wonders...