The Cheating Ways: Part I

The CS has stated on several occasions that this blog is not a guide on how or whether to cheat. However, those that will ultimately decide that strict monogamy is not in their future, should give some thought to the "do's" and "dont's" of the cheating way. Now before the flames begin, this is only one perspective. Some may agree or disagree. Some will think that this is all common sense, while others will condemn the whole "disgusting" process. But those that condemn it, can once again gain insight into certain behavior that will be useful in their own relationships.

When one realizes that they are happy in their marriage/relationship, but the prospect of bangin the same tail forever is about as appealing as a coffee enema, thought should be given to some of the following:

1. Planting the Seeds

Many guys and girls finally crack and decide that they must have the touch of someone other than their spouse. Yet usually after torturing themselves about it for years, they proceed about it in a destructive and haphazrad way. People are creatures of habit. Your spouse knows your rituals inside and out. So if you decide to cheat and think you can jump into it without any thought...think again. You'll ruin everything you have and quick.

You have decided to stray-you long for the hot touch and taste of someone else on occasion. Mix up your routine so your spouse doesnt suspect unusual behavior. That means that if you claim to be "working late" ...actually do that...dont frolic with someone else right away. It means that "a night out with the boys or girls" is exactly that. Set these things up early as your normal activity so there is no suspicion that they are excuses for doing something else. Give yourself lead time and create opportunities for yourself to be away from your spouse, but with them realizing that your behavior is normal and routine. Dont make the mistake of changing your behavior immediately. You have waited long enough for what you want...set it up right. Control your emotions and dont get stupid...it isnt going anywhere.

2. Crossing the Line

If you decide to cheat, realize that you will not cross the line just once. Once you cross it, it will cease to exist. If you think that you will stray only once "just to satisfy the urge" forget about it! Your better off considering whether you should cheat at all. Once it happens, you will keep coming back for more, whether its with one person or several. Pleasure, excitement, adventure and mystery all in one package is sexier and more potent than any drug. Yes...you may feel guilty. Yes...you may agonize over what you did. But rest assured you will come back to the cheating way. It is important to realize this and control it, rather than rermain oblivious until your downward spiral is readily apparent even to yourself. Know this...understand this...and deal with this before you cheat.

3. Attachment

The CS is a believer that the more you fuck someone the more likely it is that you will get attached. If your otherwise happy in your marriage/relationship, think about this one before you proceed to cheat with the same person over and over. If the same cheating partner is your preference, consider whether you are truly happy in your relationship to begin with. Or, perhaps you have a personality that gets quickly attached to anyone you bed. If that is the case, the cheating way may not be for you.

If you fit one of these profiles and decide to cheat, you will quickly lead yourself and those around you into a state of emotional misery. Understand that and deal with it before you cheat.